The flesh is the intellect, will and the emotions of man, functioning independently of God.
The desire of the Spirit is that the intellect, the will, and the emotions, function dependent upon God.
The way we deal with that flesh, is by daily bearing our cross.
Paul: In my hardship I see myself dying to the flesh, so that more of Jesus can be revealed in me.
Paul: I have learned that safety and satisfaction, are not found in a place, they are only found in Jesus.
God never meant for you to find your happiness in circumstances.
The Spirit teaches us that sorrow is an opportunity for freedom.
The Holy Spirit will help you.